"Father" has placed in each of us an innate ability to love. Unfortunately, most of us have been hurt through abusive relationships or through loss of a loved one. because of this we shut down our love of others, and keep people at arms length to protect ourselves. This reaction is selfish in nature as well as harmful to ourselves and others. This reaction causes us to become more and more selfish in our nature.
God's way of forgiveness allows our love to grow and become fruitful in our lives. If we forgive those who hurt us we will come to a point that we can love those whom God has given us to love with the love he has given us. The love of Christ.